My views on marriage constantly change. On Monday afternoon, I may see a cute, happy couple with 2.5 beautiful kids and I want to just take the plunge. Be like Nike and Just Do It! Thursday morning rolls around and I talk to friends who are going through a painful divorce and bam! *throws hands up* I vow to never, ever go down that road (or aisle in this case). And then there are my “Carrie Bradshaw” days. Times where I’m livin’ it up with my girls, shopping with no boundaries or having Sunday brunch with special friends at my favorite spot. In those moments I sit back, bask in my independence, smile and think…life is good.
It’s not that I don’t believe in the principle of marriage. It’s quite the opposite. I see marriage as a joint venture. And like any great merger, selecting the right partner for long term compatibility is critical. I think…marriage is one of the most important decisions in a person’s life. It’s one of the most important commitments that someone will make during their lifetime. And when I do it—if I do it, I want to be certain it’s right. Not perfect, but right.
It’s not that I don’t believe in the principle of marriage. It’s quite the opposite. I see marriage as a joint venture. And like any great merger, selecting the right partner for long term compatibility is critical. I think…marriage is one of the most important decisions in a person’s life. It’s one of the most important commitments that someone will make during their lifetime. And when I do it—if I do it, I want to be certain it’s right. Not perfect, but right.
I have friends (and family members) who have successful, loving marriages and I admire them so much. But can I keep it real for a sec? I have even more friends who have struggled to find that happy place with their spouses. The results: infidelity, depression, insecurities, divorce and…drama!
I had a conversation recently with a good friend whose marriage ended after only a few years. The Virgo in me had to know, what went wrong? There were several things, but the main issue: He and his ex-wife were in different places in their lives. He wanted ‘this’ and she wanted ‘that’.
I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever get married. But what I do know is this: I will always be honest with myself. I’ll listen to my heart and my head. And I’ll make the best decision for me, and no one else.
I had a conversation recently with a good friend whose marriage ended after only a few years. The Virgo in me had to know, what went wrong? There were several things, but the main issue: He and his ex-wife were in different places in their lives. He wanted ‘this’ and she wanted ‘that’.
I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever get married. But what I do know is this: I will always be honest with myself. I’ll listen to my heart and my head. And I’ll make the best decision for me, and no one else.
And that’s how I’m feeling...today. Two weeks from now could be a whole other story! So stay tuned....
